To stand up and be counted or not!

I have been pretty slack the last ten days or so with many things, not the least of which has been my lack of posts on my blog.

The lack of posts has really only been a reflection on my workload of late and my desire to get the final fiscal quarter of the year off to a rellay good start! Well there has also been a bit of exhaustion from the weekend's frivolties at Sleaze as well!

But I am pretty much over that now!

During the week I have still been reading my fave blogs and also getting the regular volumes of email (which incidently I love!), and have been keeping up with what's going on on.

One coincidence this week that I wanted to talk about was an email I received from someone asking why I rarely talk about my partner or our relationship and the latest post on Hunter and Damon's blogs.

For those of you who have never heard of Hunter and Damon, they are two porn stars, gogo dancers, writers and up until a short time ago boyfriends. I first chatted to Damon years ago - not sure where from, but we traded emails every now and then and I was always meaning to write an article on what it's like to be a porn star / GoGo dancer.

I was beaten to it though as they where the feature of an amazing documentary "Hunter and Damon" which was critically acclaimed, won swagloads of awards and was even banned in Australia!

I have only seen bits of the documentary so I can't really comment on , but the bits I have seen were outstanding.

It's always sad when a relationship ends, and in this case they both cite being in the media spotlight was a factor. The reasons for the relationship ending are none of anyones business, but the comments tehy make in a jointblog post are really interesting and mirror one of the reasons why I am so priavte and particular about my own relationship.

I have a real struggle with this issue. On the one hand I believe that as a gay couple who has been together for many years and are "married" we should be visible and stand up and act as role models.

The other side of me though, doesn't want the attention or the scrutiny. I 've had media attention in my past and I 've known and know many extrodinary and famous people. When someone becomes a public figure, or "visible", everything they do is put under the microscope and analysed.

I don't want to have my life explored in that way, nor do I want that sort of implicit or tacit pressure on me or my relationship.

I suppose I believe by just being it is hopefully helping to "normalise" same sex relationships. What I do know is that sometimes at work functions we are the only same sex couple, and I know that we have helped changed peolpe's attitudes, just by being "us"

It's a hard call really, I feel that we do have a responsibility, but I feel that that sort of attention woudl only be detrimental to us.

I will leave with my hopes that both Damon and Hunter are happy with whatever they may choose to do :)

7:35:00 PM